Some thoughts drive me crazy
I’ve been debating with myself whether or not to share these thoughts with you dear readers. But I would really like to hear someone else opinion than my own on them.
Lately I’ve been a little down and it opened up a part of me I thought I had handled. I obviously hadn’t. I miss my ex and I want to write him and tell him all that, but I’m scared of the outcome. Also I find it to be a selfish act from my part when I know he has moved on with a new girl. And I know since he has moved on he is very likely not to have any feelings for me. I do believe he cares about me though, but I don’t think there’s any feelings left unfortunately. I also don’t think it will do any good for him if I write him and I don’t want to cause him any harm at all. But I really miss him and I still have some feelings for him. So here it is… Should I just keep it to myself (and to you dear readers) or should I contact him and tell him? I’ve also lately asked around for him but at the times I have asked he luckily hasn’t been around. (And I say luckily cause I’m still not sure what to do)
If you have any opinions, please do share 🙂
Dwelling in the past over things that wasn’t meant to be can do no good. I’ve done the exact same thing, taking contact after breaking it, and that ended in a big disaster for myself, everything bad came up to the surface again. The best thing you could do is to move on, with time and good company everything will maybe not be forgotten but at least seem irrelevant. Hang in there <3
As we said in the military “There’s no plan that will end up successful, only parts of it may be achieved”.
Eventually things will work out in a certain way good or bad, just make sure you adapt yourself to what happens in the best way you can.
ithink you should tell him maybe it will help you to get on with things
I don’t think you should. It will never turn out like you want it to. Better to man up and move on like you have so far and wait for things to turn for the better.
It doesn’t really matter if you contact him or not. If you do contact him and if you two somehow get together again, the problems which caused the break up will still be there. One thing for sure, people don’t change. If you don’t contact him those thought which you are having right now will be running around in your head for a while. But some time not too long from now, you gonna realize that it gets easier each day. But untill then, you will suffer no matter what. But the bright side is, you are free to choose your pain… Besides, you don’t have to think if you’d cause him any harm by telling him what you really think. Instead i’d highly recommend that you consider what he would do if he was the one in your situation. So take some time alone in silence, think about what he would. Then think about if it would make you happy to do so. If the answer is yes just go ahead… And remember, you can’t spend your life trying not to cause any harm to others. Guess what, people don’t even think like that before they do something.
sweetest, thanks for sharing this with us, to feel comfortable enough with us.
Think hard and carefully, are your feelings real, not just because you are feeling a bit lonely. Remember the break up- why did it end…. if your feelings are still there, then I suggest writing him is the right thing to do. then if he says no, at least you did your best and you can leave it all behind you.
Leave it and move on. Wallowing in past feelings just makes them last longer and makes it harder to get on with your life
Do you ant to have any regrets in life. If you don’t, you should and tell him what you think now. Wheter the outcome is good or bad. You would find your answer and know what you should do next. Living with a IF will make you always confused. Go for it girl and we will be always there for you whatever the outcome is.
Don’t do it hun. If you have all these residual feelings, what I did was write a massive letter, fold it up, put it in an envelope and keep it in my desk drawer. Never sent it. There’s always a reason for an ex to be an ex. You’ll get over it in time (Sorry to use a cliche but it’s the truth). Took me YEARS to get over my asshole ex but it gets easier to not think about them. You’ll find you keep reading the letter and debating whether to send it, but there will come a moment when you go to look at the letter and realise you’re glad you didn’t send it.
Thank you ALL for your honest words <3
- Rob: I liked that quote its very honest.
- Dena: thank you hun<3 You are the sweetest! and my feelings are real, they always have been. I wish things were easier sometimes or that he would just write me. (even thought I would be scared too hah)
- Alp: Your words sorta made me sob a little, in a good way<3 (if you know what I mean)
- Ironangel: I've actually done that before, written a letter and not sending it. It does work, I've actually done something similar in this case, but that didn't really work this time around.. But maybe I should try again, no harm in that.
I read this and since then I have changed my thoughts about 4 times, I have tried to put my self in everyones shoes and see the situation from every angle and I have to say my opinion is…
That you don’t really need my opinion. I think you already know deep down inside what the right choice is, This is something you have thought a lot about and you should go with what you feel. My advice would be that you shouldn’t cause yourself anymore pain over this, Fate will run its course and in the end you will be happy with or without this person.
You are very young and very pretty, You have plenty of friends and a gorgeous family. There is around 7 billion people on Earth so if you believe that this one person is your soul mate you must be a little crazy.
Life has its ups and downs but the main thing to remember is to enjoy it.
Take care of yourself.
Leeeeave it. For reasons stated above, if I elaborated I’d just be repeating them.
Also, weren’t you interested in some new guy with a similar name to mine? :Z
– Dom: Thank you<3 your really made me smile!
- J: Hello and yes I know what you would say 😛 and yes. But liking someone else doesn't change it, but I am sure the feelings I have left will vanish with time.
if im not making sense its cause I have fever now and I think my throat is trying to escape my body. 🙁 lol
Well they will, I know it takes you a long time, it does for me too as you well know. I still think about -her- from time to time, and get the sinking feeling in my gut when I think about the good times etc. But I’m very happy now with my new girl and its happening less and less often. Herp derp cliché time: time is a great healer.
All the best luv. xx